Resilient Reiner

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Podcast by Nicole Burnett

Resilient Reiner

The Resilient Reiner with Nicole Burnett is your go-to podcast dedicated to mental performance coaching for reiners and western horse riders. Join us as we explore the power of the mind and how it can elevate your performance with your horse to new heights. Each episode uncovers invaluable strategies, techniques, and mindset shifts to help you overcome mental barriers, boost confidence, and achieve peak performance in the saddle. From managing competition nerves to cultivating focus and resilience, our podcast provides actionable insights and real-life stories that inspire and empower horse riders at all levels. Whether you're a passionate non-pro, rookie reiner, veteran competitor or seasoned pro, The Resilient Reiner is your go-to source for sharpening your mental edge and unlocking your equestrian potential & transforming your riding journey. Tune in, harness the power of your mind, and ride towards excellence.
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09 September 2025

#178 How To Not Care About Other People’s Opinions At A Horse Show

Get ready to not GAF about what anyone else thinks. Here’s the truth no one tells you: You could have perfect posture, flawless cues, and a dang good run—but if your brain is spinning about what the judge, your trainer, or that one rider on the rail thinks of you… it won’t matter.

This episode is your wake-up call and your permission slip: You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You just need to ride for your horse. Because when you do, everything changes—from your mindset to your score sheet. I’m breaking down how I help my riders shut out the noise and stay locked in with confidence, no matter who’s watching.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’m seriously curious to hear about your “aha” moments or what clicked for you. Also, take a second to leave a review on iTunes—it helps more riders like you discover the show and build unstoppable confidence.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

  • Why other people’s opinions aren’t actually the root of your nerves (and what is)
  • How to recognize when you're riding for approval vs. riding for connection
  • The 3-step process I teach riders to flip the script on show-day pressure
  • The affirmation I use that calms nerves instantly and brings focus back to the horse
  • A new way to mentally prep that doesn’t involve pretending not to care

QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

  • Why do you ride worse when people are watching—even when you know I’m capable?
  • How do you stop overthinking what other riders, trainers, or judges might think of you?
  • What do you actually do to stay focused on your horse and not the crowd?
  • Is it possible to feel calm and confident when you’re in the spotlight?

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04 September 2025

#177 Why Is It Better To Focus On Small Wins Instead Of Winning The Whole Thing?

Have you ever walked out of the arena and thought, That wasn’t my best ride…?

Maybe you’ve felt that heavy weight of chasing the win—the score, the title, the validation—only to realize it’s pulling you away from what truly matters: being in the moment with your horse.

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful mindset shift that can completely change how you approach competition and your riding as a whole. It’s all about focusing on small wins instead of obsessing over the importance of any given run. This isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about riding better. I’ll share the story of a rider who made this exact shift and saw her scores jump two full points. If you’re ready to leave the pressure to win at the gate and start riding your best, this episode is for you.

If this episode resonates with you, I’d love to hear about it! Tag me on Instagram at @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner to share your story. What’s one small win you’re focusing on this week? And don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes—it helps other riders find the show and start their own mental performance journey. Together, we’re building a stronger, more confident riding community.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why fixating on the outcome can hurt your performance—and your confidence.
  • The benefits of shifting your focus to small, manageable wins.
  • A real client’s story: How one small mental adjustment boosted her score by two points.
  • How focusing on what you can control leads to calmer, more confident riding.
  • Practical strategies to bring this mindset into your next ride.

Questions I Answer:

  • Why does focusing on winning actually work against you?
  • What does “stacking small wins” look like in practice?
  • How do you stay present in high-pressure situations?
  • What steps can you take today to ride with more clarity and confidence?

🚀 How can I help you RIGHT NOW? 🚀

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19 August 2025

#176 How to Sit the Sliding Stop (Without Bracing or Freaking Out)

You don’t need to be stronger to sit the stop—you need to feel safer.

Sounds backwards, right? But that’s exactly what I see trip up even the most talented riders in the arena. They’re told to sit deep and stay soft—but no one talks about how to do that when your brain is screaming “Danger!” the moment your horse locks in for the slide.

In today’s episode, I’m answering a question straight from a rider in our community who asked, “Nicole, how the heck do I sit at the sliding stop without bracing or getting thrown forward?” And if you've ever felt like a sack of potatoes or a ragdoll flung around during your stops, trust me—you are not alone, and you are not broken. You're just dealing with a very normal, very human nervous system response.

This episode is all about showing you how to work with your body—not against it—so you can ride your stops with softness, clarity, and confidence. If you’ve been gripping with your thighs, holding your breath, or tensing up when the pressure’s on… this one’s for you.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’m always curious to hear your stories, your takeaways, and your progress. And don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes—it helps more riders find the support they need. 🤠

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why your body braces during a sliding stop (even when you know what to do)
  • The surprising role your nervous system plays in seat softness
  • A clear, step-by-step breakdown of how to train your body to stay soft under pressure
  • What safety has to do with softness—and why “trying harder” doesn’t work
  • How to train your seat like you train your horse: with consistency, presence, and trust
  • The 3-part process I use with riders to help them stop spiraling and stay grounded

Questions I Answer:

  • “Why do I brace in the stop, even when I’ve practiced the right technique?”
  • “How do I keep from getting thrown forward or feeling like I freeze up?”
  • “What can I do before, during, and after a ride to stay more grounded in my body?”
  • “Is it really possible to retrain my nervous system to respond better in high-pressure moments?”

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Whether you’re working on sitting your stops, rebuilding after a tough ride, or just trying to get out of your own head—remember this: your horse doesn’t need perfection. They need presence.

And presence starts with safety.

Safety allows softness.

And softness? That’s the secret to a powerful, beautiful stop.

You’ve got this.

Let’s ride. 🤠

Nicole

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05 August 2025

#175 Why Most Riders Never Reach Their Full Potential

You can have the best-trained horse in the warm-up pen… and still lose.

I know that sounds harsh, but I’ve seen it too many times to ignore. A rider pours months—heck, years—into perfecting every detail of their horse’s training. The circles are round, the stops are deep, the lead changes are smooth as butter. And yet, when the pressure’s on? They choke. Not because they’re not good enough—but because they never trained their mind to handle the moment.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the real reason so many talented riders hit a ceiling they can’t break through. It’s not about talent. It’s not about horsepower. It’s about what’s happening between your ears. If you’ve ever walked out of the arena thinking, “My horse was ready, but I wasn’t,” this one’s for you.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’m always curious to hear about your experience. Also, don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes to help more riders discover the show.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why talent and training alone won’t guarantee success in the arena
  • The #1 mistake high-level riders make when preparing for competition
  • How to spot the difference between “wishful thinking” and real mental preparation
  • The mindset shift that separates average riders from elite competitors
  • A breakdown of what it actually means to train your mind like you train your horse

Questions I Answer:

  • Why do you still struggle to win even when their horse is fully trained?
  • What role does mindset play in competition results?
  • How can you prepare mentally for a high-pressure show?
  • What are the signs that you need a mental strategy (not just more saddle time)?
  • What should you focus on in the days leading up to a competition?

🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:

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29 July 2025

#174 Stop Wasting Energy Fighting Reality—Here’s What to Do Instead

Truth bomb: Wanting it to be different doesn’t make it so.

In this episode, we’re digging into one of the most overlooked—but powerful—mental performance tools I teach: radical acceptance. Not hustle. Not trying harder. Not demanding that things go your way. But meeting the moment exactly as it is… so you can actually do something about it.

Because here’s the thing—most riders burn out not from the ride itself, but from the resistance. From the frustration of, “My horse shouldn’t be acting like this,” or “I should be further along by now.”

Whether you’re dealing with tech meltdowns in your business, a horse that spooks at air, or a show that goes nothing like you planned, this shift will change how you show up—for real.

And no, radical acceptance doesn’t mean giving up or lowering your standards. It means dropping the drama and meeting reality so you can take smart, steady action in the only moment you truly have power: right now.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’d love to hear what hit home for you—and where you’re practicing radical acceptance in your own riding.

And if this episode gave you a new way of looking at something, please take a second to leave a review on iTunes. Your review helps other riders find the support they need too.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

  • Why radical acceptance is not the same as giving up
  • How to stop wasting energy on frustration and start riding from clarity
  • Real-life rider (and life!) examples where radical acceptance made all the difference
  • How to reclaim your mental energy and confidence—even in moments that feel “off”
  • The key difference between reaction mode vs. response mode
  • How this mindset shift helps you ride with more trust, more agency, and less mental noise

QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

  • What does radical acceptance actually mean, and how does it apply to riding?
  • How do you stop spinning out when things don’t go to plan with your horse?
  • Isn’t it important to be goal-driven? How do you balance acceptance with ambition?
  • What do you do when you’re emotionally flooded or upset about where you're at in your riding?
  • How can you use this mindset in real-time—at shows, in the arena, or when life throws curveballs?

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16 July 2025

#173 From “I wish I could do that…” to “I CAN ABSOLUTELY DO THIS!”

“I’m just free.” -Janessa

You know that dream? The one where you ride out into the arena with confidence, freedom, and ease — just you and your horse, no pressure, no second-guessing, no needing someone to hold your hand?

Well… what happens when you finally get the horse, the lessons, the gear — and you still don’t feel ready?

In this episode, I’m sitting down with one of my amazing clients, Janessa, to talk about the real stuff behind riding confidence. Not the fake-it-til-you-make-it kind — but the deep, grounded trust that changes how you ride, how you show up, and how you feel in your own skin. Janessa went from constant what-if spirals and fear of riding solo… to riding alone, lighthearted, laughing, and living out her cowgirl dreams in the saddle.

She’s been through our programs - Resilient Reiner Academy and Mental Gym for Equestrians, and the transformation she’s experienced will give you chills. If you’ve ever wondered whether confidence like that is possible for you — this episode is your proof.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I'm so curious to hear what parts hit home for you. And if you’re feeling inspired, leave a review on iTunes so others can discover the podcast and find the support they need to ride with confidence, too.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

  • What Janessa really struggled with — even after getting the “right” horse, trainer, and tack
  • The surprising realization that changed everything for her (and how it had nothing to do with her riding skills)
  • Why solo riding felt impossible before — and how she worked her way toward it, one breath at a time
  • The specific mental tools that helped her shift from spiraling thoughts to grounded confidence
  • How her work in RRA and MGE helped her ride with ease — and live with more freedom outside the barn, too
  • What riding her horse now feels like (hint: it's totally in alignment with who she is off the horse, too)

Questions I Answer:

  • Why do you still feel anxious around riding even when nothing’s “wrong”?
  • How do you stop overthinking and start enjoying time with your horse again?
  • What’s the difference between nervousness and not being ready?
  • How do you build confidence when you feel like I’m starting late in the game?
  • What does it actually look like to ride from a calm, focused place — not just hope the anxiety disappears?

🚀 How can I help you RIGHT NOW? 🚀

This episode is full of heart, honesty, and hope. Whether you’ve been riding for years or just getting started, Janessa’s journey is a reminder that the real transformation doesn’t start in the saddle — it starts in your mind.

Be sure to follow the podcast and stay tuned for more client stories, mindset tools, and rider breakthroughs. And if this story lit something up in you… don’t ignore it.

You’ve got more control than you think.

Nicole

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