Resilient Reiner

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Podcast by Nicole Burnett

Resilient Reiner

The Resilient Reiner with Nicole Burnett is your go-to podcast dedicated to mental performance coaching for reiners and western horse riders. Join us as we explore the power of the mind and how it can elevate your performance with your horse to new heights. Each episode uncovers invaluable strategies, techniques, and mindset shifts to help you overcome mental barriers, boost confidence, and achieve peak performance in the saddle. From managing competition nerves to cultivating focus and resilience, our podcast provides actionable insights and real-life stories that inspire and empower horse riders at all levels. Whether you're a passionate non-pro, rookie reiner, veteran competitor or seasoned pro, The Resilient Reiner is your go-to source for sharpening your mental edge and unlocking your equestrian potential & transforming your riding journey. Tune in, harness the power of your mind, and ride towards excellence.

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09 September 2026

#217 How to Do Better at Horse Shows

Here’s a horse-show mystery for you: how can you ride like you know exactly what you’re doing on Wednesday… and by Saturday feel like somebody swapped riders on you? 😂

Your horse didn’t erase three months of training on the trailer ride over. And you didn’t suddenly forget how to ride because somebody handed you a back number.

But pressure DOES change things.

And this is where I see so many really capable western riders get frustrated. They know what their horse feels like at home. They know they can ride well. Then they get into the warm-up pen, everything starts feeling a little more important, and suddenly they’re thinking faster, trying harder, second-guessing themselves, and wondering where the heck their normal riding went.

So in this episode, we’re talking about the gap between the rider you are at home and the rider who shows up at horse shows—and why closing that gap isn’t always about more lessons, more practice, or trying harder.

I’m breaking down what pressure can change in your body, focus, timing, and decision-making, why your horse may start feeling different because YOU feel different, and what real confidence under pressure actually looks like.

Because I don’t want you spending another show season wondering, “Why can’t I just ride like myself when it counts?”

There’s a reason. And more importantly, it’s trainable. 🐴🔥

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your horse-show crew!

I am genuinely curious to hear about your experience—especially if you’re one of those riders who can absolutely nail it at home and then feels completely different once you get to the show.

And be sure to leave a review on iTunes to help other western riders discover the show!

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why being able to ride well at home doesn’t automatically mean you can access those same skills under pressure
  • What may actually be happening when you suddenly feel tight, rushed, hesitant, or mentally scattered at a horse show
  • Why your horse can feel completely different at the show even when your horse isn’t the real thing that changed
  • How pressure can affect your timing, feel, softness, focus, and decision-making in the saddle
  • Why trying harder can sometimes pull you even farther away from the ride you’re trying to create
  • The difference between simply wanting more confidence and actually training confidence
  • Why “relax,” “trust your horse,” and “stop overthinking” aren’t very useful when your nervous system is already fired up
  • Why one mistake doesn’t have to take the rest of your run down with it
  • What I mean when I talk about regulating, rewiring, reclaiming, and reinforcing your response to pressure
  • Why becoming a stronger competitor does NOT mean becoming fearless
  • What better horse-show performance actually looks like: recovering faster, staying connected, and keeping access to the rider you already know how to be
  • Why mental performance deserves a place in your training program right alongside everything you’re already doing with your horse

Questions I Answer:

  • Why do you ride better at home than you do at horse shows?
  • Why does your horse feel different at shows?
  • Why do you suddenly overthink things you normally know how to do?
  • Why do you start micromanaging your horse when you’re nervous?
  • Do you actually need more saddle time, or are you training the wrong problem?
  • Why does one mistake sometimes throw off your entire run?
  • What happens to your timing and feel when you’re under pressure?
  • Why doesn’t telling yourself to “just be confident” actually work?
  • Can confidence really be trained?
  • Do you need to get rid of your nerves before you can perform well?
  • What should better performance under pressure actually feel like?
  • How do you start bringing more of your home-ride self into the show pen?

Links + Resources:

  • EveryHorse Training Tracker 🐴
  • Available now for iPhone in the Apple App Store. Search EveryHorse Training Tracker and look for the green horse icon. Every feature is free to try for seven days.

Get EveryHorse Training Tracker here

Android Riders: The Android version is built! Google requires a testing period before public release, so reach out if you’d like to help test EveryHorse.

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02 September 2026

#216 I Couldn’t Find a Horse Training Tracker—So I Built One

Friday rolls around and Monday somehow feels like it happened three weeks ago. You’re standing at the barn thinking, Wait… when did I ride this horse last? What did we work on? Was that the ride where something finally clicked—or was that the other horse?

That was me. I was tired of carrying every horse’s training program around in my head, and after years of searching for an app that tracked the actual training—not vet records, invoices, or GPS miles—I finally decided to build it myself.

In this episode, I’m sharing the story behind EveryHorse Training Tracker, how I’m using it with my own horses, and the unexpected way getting my horse training out of my head has actually helped me become more consistent in the saddle. Because the 10-minute rides, groundwork sessions, conditioning days, and tiny pieces you work on before the breakthrough? They count, too.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why I created EveryHorse Training Tracker
  • Why remembering whether you rode isn’t enough to understand your horse’s training
  • How short rides, groundwork, conditioning, lessons, and exposure sessions all contribute to progress
  • Why different horses need different training goals
  • How tracking my rides unexpectedly made me more consistent
  • Why seeing your work can help quiet that “I’m not doing enough” voice
  • How three weeks of tiny exercises helped lead to my mustang Brumby’s first lead change
  • Why EveryHorse gives you information about your training without telling you how to train your horse

Questions I Answer:

  • How do you keep track of multiple horses without holding everything in your head?
  • Does a 10- or 15-minute ride really count as a training session?
  • Why did notebooks and barn whiteboards never work for you?
  • How can tracking your horse training help you become more consistent?
  • What should actually count when tracking a horse’s work?
  • Can EveryHorse work for riders outside of reining and western performance horses?
  • When is EveryHorse coming to Android?

Links + Resources:

🎯 EveryHorse Training Tracker 🐴

Available now for iPhone in the Apple App Store. Search EveryHorse Training Tracker and look for the green horse icon. Every feature is free to try for seven days.

Get EveryHorse Training Tracker here

Android Riders: The Android version is built! Google requires a testing period before public release, so reach out if you’d like to help test EveryHorse.

🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor

Stop “show nerves” and saddle up with swagger.

👉 https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/

🎯 Mental Gym for Equestrians

Train your mind like a pro so you ride like one.

👉 https://mentalgymforequestrians.com/

🎯 Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips

Get rider-specific mindset tools in your inbox. Join my email list here.

👉https://www.resilientreiner.com/

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your barn friends and western riding community! I am curious to hear all about your experience.

Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes to help other riders discover the show.

Follow the podcast to stay up to date with all of our resources and upcoming episodes!

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14 July 2026

#215 5 Tips for a Faster Time at Your Next Barrel Race

It is a horse race, after all.

You ever been at a barrel race where somebody says to you,

“Man… my horse just felt off today.”

And meanwhile you watched the whole thing happen before they even made it to the first barrel.

The rider got tight in the alley.

Started checking instead of riding.

Second-guessed the approach.

Tried so hard not to miss that they quit riding freely altogether.

Here’s the hard truth nobody really talks about enough in the horse world:

A lot of barrel racers are not losing time because their horse lacks speed.

They’re losing time because pressure changes how they ride.

And the frustrating part? Most riders do not even realize it’s happening while it’s happening.

In this episode, I’m diving into 5 things that can genuinely help you clock a faster barrel racing time — and none of them involve just kicking harder or asking your horse for more speed.

Because yes, your horse matters.

Your training matters.

Your pattern matters.

But your nervous system matters too.

The way you go down the alley matters.

The way you recover after a weird approach matters.

The way you talk to yourself before a run matters.

And if your brain is spiraling while your horse is trying to do their job, that’s going to show up on the clock every single time.

We’re talking about the mental side of barrel racing that riders feel every weekend but rarely know how to train for — overthinking, hesitation, pressure, tightness, adrenaline, second-guessing, and the difference between riding careful versus riding committed.

This episode is for the rider who knows there is more speed in there… but also knows something changes once competition pressure shows up.

And honestly?

That does not mean you are weak.

It means you are human.

Let’s talk about how to ride through that better.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I am curious to hear all about your experience. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes to help others discover the show.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why riders often lose time before they ever make it to the first barrel
  • The hidden way pressure changes your riding during a barrel racing run
  • Why trying to “not mess up” creates hesitation and costs time
  • How nervous system regulation affects your timing, feel, and connection with your horse
  • Why overthinking makes riders slower under pressure
  • The importance of giving your brain one clear job during a run
  • How to recover quickly when a turn, approach, or moment feels off
  • Why mentally leaving the run creates even bigger mistakes
  • The connection between mental consistency and faster barrel racing times
  • Why mindset training is part of performance, not separate from it
  • How to stay more calm, clear, and committed in the alleyway and competition pen

Questions I Answer:

  • Why do you ride differently at barrel races than you do at home?
  • How do you stop hesitating during your barrel racing runs?
  • What causes riders to lose time in the alleyway?
  • How can you stay calm before your run?
  • Why does pressure make your timing feel off?
  • How do you stop overthinking while running barrels?
  • What should you focus on during your run instead of trying to think about everything?
  • How can you recover mentally after a bad turn or mistake?
  • Why do you tense up during competition even when you know your horse is capable?
  • How do you build confidence that actually holds up under pressure?

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07 July 2026

#214 Toxic Trainer or Tough Coach? 9 Red Flags Riders and Parents Shouldn’t Ignore

There’s a moment a lot of riders don’t talk about out loud…

You swing off your horse, loosen the cinch, and instead of feeling better—you feel smaller. Quieter. A little unsure of yourself.

And here’s the hard truth no one says in the barn aisle:

Not every “tough” trainer is actually making you better.

In this episode, we’re getting honest about a topic that comes up way more than people admit—how to tell the difference between a coach who’s pushing you to grow and one who’s quietly tearing down your confidence, your decision-making, and your relationship with your horse.

Because in the western world, we’ve normalized a lot in the name of grit, discipline, and results. But there’s a line. And if you’ve ever walked away from a ride feeling confused, ashamed, or like you’re losing your voice… we need to talk about it.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I am curious to hear all about your experience.

Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes to help others discover the show. 🤍🐎

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • The critical difference between a tough coach and a toxic trainer (and why most riders miss it)
  • Why “hard” training is not the same as harmful training—for you or your horse
  • The subtle signs your confidence is being built… versus slowly broken down
  • How unhealthy trainer dynamics impact your nervous system, riding performance, and decision-making
  • Why confusion and self-doubt can actually be created—not just “in your head”
  • The role of barn culture and how it shapes your experience in the saddle
  • What healthy, high-level coaching actually looks like in the western horse world
  • How to trust your gut again when something feels off
  • What to watch for if you’re a parent with a youth rider
  • The shift from dependence → independence (and why that matters for long-term success with your horse)

Questions I Answer:

  • How do you know if your trainer is helping you grow or hurting your confidence?
  • Is it normal to feel nervous, ashamed, or afraid around my trainer?
  • Where is the line between discipline and emotional harm in riding?
  • Why do you feel like you can’t ask questions or speak up in your lessons?
  • How do toxic dynamics affect your riding and my horse’s performance?
  • What does a healthy trainer-client relationship actually look like?
  • What should you do if something feels off but you can’t fully explain it?
  • How can you advocate for yourself (or your child) without feeling disrespectful?
  • Is it okay to get a second opinion or leave a trainer?

Links & Resources:

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01 July 2026

#213 How to Plus Your Sliding Stop Every Time

It’s the crown jewel of reining. A fan favorite to watch. And a rider favorite to perform.

Yet you can have the horse, the training, and the maneuver… and still leave points in the pen.

Here’s the part riders don’t always want to hear—most missed sliding stops aren’t lost in the dirt… they’re lost 30 feet before the marker. Right in that rundown where everything should feel simple, but suddenly your body tightens, your mind jumps ahead, and your horse feels you check out.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why your sliding stop isn’t actually a “stop problem.” It’s a pressure problem. A timing problem. A presence problem. And once you see it, you won’t be able to unsee it.

We’re talking about what really changes in your body when the speed goes up, why anticipation quietly steals your score, and how to stay committed all the way through the maneuver so your horse can actually show you what they’ve got.

Because the goal isn’t to try harder at the marker.

It’s to become the kind of rider your horse can trust all the way down the pen.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach @resilientreiner and @[GuestInstagramHandle] on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I am curious to hear all about your experience. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes to help others discover the show.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why most sliding stops lose quality before the cue ever happens
  • The difference between riding into the stop vs. bracing for it
  • How anticipation and overthinking change your body (and your horse feels it instantly)
  • What actually happens to your timing when pressure goes up in the rundown
  • Why fear around speed quietly holds riders back from bigger scores
  • The real reason “trying harder at the marker” doesn’t fix your stop
  • How your nervous system impacts your horse’s performance more than you think
  • What it means to stay committed all the way through a maneuver
  • The subtle ways riders “pre-stop” without realizing it
  • How to ride forward with confidence instead of backing off under pressure

Questions I Answer:

  • Why does your sliding stop feel good at home but fall apart in the show pen?
  • How do you stop anticipating the stop and stay present in the rundown?
  • Why does your horse feel different when you get nervous or start thinking ahead?
  • Do you need more speed or more control to get better stops?
  • Why do you tense up right before the marker—even when you don’t want to?
  • How can you stay committed to the maneuver without bracing or overthinking it?
  • What should you focus on during the rundown instead of the stop itself?
  • Why does adding speed make you feel out of control—and how do you fix that?

Links & Resources:

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24 June 2026

#212 Do THIS for More Speed + Confidence With Your Horse

You can’t fake speed. But it can be so hard to feel comfortable with the speed required to plus your stops, chase down your cow, or win the barrel race.

I’ve watched riders ask for more go… then shut it down in the very next stride without even realizing it. Hands get busy, bodies get tight, and suddenly the same rider who wanted more speed is now trying to survive it. And the horse? They feel every bit of that mixed message.

In this episode, we’re getting real about what’s actually happening when speed feels messy, scary, or out of control in the saddle. Because this isn’t about “just being braver” or “kicking harder.” This is about how your body interprets speed—and whether your horse experiences you as clear… or conflicted.

We’re going to break down why speed isn’t the problem—it’s the mirror. And how learning to stay present, organized, and steady when the energy goes up is what actually creates confidence, connection, and clean performance—whether you’re in the show pen, working cattle, or just loping at home trying to feel more in sync with your horse.

If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I am curious to hear all about your experience. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes to help others discover the show.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

  • Why wanting more speed and feeling safe at speed are two completely different things
  • What your horse actually feels when your body says “go” but your nervous system says “nope”
  • The hidden ways riders accidentally shut down speed without realizing it
  • Why speed exposes tension, hesitation, and lack of trust faster than anything else
  • How your nervous system response—not your riding ability—is often the real limiter
  • The difference between forcing speed vs. actually riding it well
  • How to build confidence at faster gaits without turning into a chaotic or reactive rider
  • What “organized speed” really looks and feels like in western riding disciplines
  • The small, practical shifts that help you stay present when the energy picks up
  • Why confidence isn’t about eliminating nerves—but learning to ride through them

Questions I Answer:

  • Why does your horse feel harder to ride the moment you ask for more speed?
  • How do you stop getting tight or bracing when your horse gets more forward?
  • Why can you get speed sometimes, but it never feels clean or controlled?
  • Is this a confidence issue, a training issue, or something deeper?
  • How do you build speed without feeling like you’re losing control of your horse?
  • What should you focus on instead of just trying to go faster?
  • Why do you shut things down right when it starts to feel good?
  • How can you stay mentally present instead of panicking when the energy goes up?

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