#170 That Feeling You’re Embarrassed To Admit… aka Why Her Success Stings (And What It Really Means)

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When her success hits you harder than you expected…

Let’s be real for a second. You’re in the warm-up pen, or maybe just scrolling Instagram—and boom.

There she is. Confident. Collected. Owning it.

And you feel it.

That tight chest. That wave of “ugh.” That tiny voice whispering, “Why am I not there yet?”

Comparison sneaks in before you even realize it.

But what if I told you… that reaction isn’t something to hide or fight?

What if it’s actually a message—a clue to your next level?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the moment that stings the most—and flipping it into something powerful. I’m walking you through how to stop making comparison mean something’s wrong with you… and start letting it show you what you truly want.

Because here’s the truth: her success isn’t your shame—it’s your signal.

If this episode hits home for you (or makes you see things in a new light), be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this with your riding buddies. I’m so curious to hear what part stuck with you. And if you haven’t yet, leave a review on iTunes to help more riders like you find the show!

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

Why that gut-punch of comparison is actually a powerful indicator of desire
How to stop making someone else’s success mean you’re behind
What your nervous system has to do with showing up confident in the saddle
Why copying her strategy won’t get you her results—and what will
A new way to turn comparison into clarity

QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

Why do I feel triggered when I see other riders succeed?
What does it actually mean when someone else’s confidence makes me shrink?
Can I ever get to that level of confidence without pretending to be someone I’m not?
How do I shift from comparison to creation—and do it my way?

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